Focus — How to Not Get Sucked Into The Mud Puddle You Don’t Want To Be In.

Energy moves in the path we focus, not in the opposite direction of where we tell it to go.

We tend to get the most entangled with the things we want the least. When we push against something, we often energetically produce more suction towards it. This may seem upside down, but, when we take a look at how energy works — it actually makes a lot of sense.

Focus In The Accurate Direction… Not The Opposite

Focus is an essential part of how we generate energy. When we want to prevent an event or experience from happening, but continuously focus our thoughts towards it — we continue to send energy in that direction.

Energy moves in the path we focus in, not the opposite of where we tell it to go. If we are about to fall over the edge of a cliff, we direct our full attention to getting ourselves onto more solid ground — not the opposite.

The same goes when we want to boil water; we then do not focus on how to make ice. Do you see the correlation? Focusing on the other end of the spectrum never gets us the results we seek.

How Forceful Resistance Does Not Produce The Answers We Want

Another factor at play is comparable to a practice football players engage in: Player one produces as much resistance as they can while holding up a shield. Player two’s goal is then to oppose them by pushing as hard as they are capable. When player two accomplishes the task, not only have they pushed their opponent, shield, and resistance out of the way; they have also moved themselves into player one’s territory by their projection of force.

When we do not want something to happen we become player two, the one who produces a lot of force; focusing all our energy on moving “the issue” out of our way no matter what. By taking this approach, we unintentionally dig ourselves deeper into the territory of the issue we are trying to avoid. Instead of releasing the energy stuck in our system, we have now become more deeply entangled with it.

We can see how this works by observing the way kids act. When an adult tells a kid not to do something, they actually fire up the kid’s curiosity and attention. The command enables the kid’s focus to discover what the parent wanted them to avoid. The command of, “Don’t do this!” opens up our brain to new possibilities.

“Don’t make ice!” does not activate our brain to say, “Hey! Let me go boil some water!” It activates, “Why shouldn’t I make ice???” The kid, and our brain, goes through a process of considering why we should not do something; we conduct a query based on the priorities stored within our energetic system, and our focus dictates the query’s starting point:

• Why can’t I make ice?
• What should I be doing instead of making ice?

Do you notice that in each question, we are still including the word “ice” — the one and only word that we were not supposed to focus on…

This is an outtake — read the full piece on Generation Watts.